Vorpal bunny quoted Pat Califia as saying: “Perhaps this is because I cannot see a bottom who never switches as my equal, although it’s politically incorrect to say so. In my heart of hearts, I do not believe that such people are grownups. I think they are lazy, self-centered, and incomplete — and untrustworthy, to boot.
Her addition to the quote: “And yanno, I agree. I think a lot of tops view full time bottom types this way.”
My response to her: I’m very thankful to say that none of the Tops I know, whether I have played with them or not, share this point of view. Just because someone is wired as a bottom they are lazy and self-centred? To me that is exactly the same as any other kind of discrimination.
I am boggled that there are people out there who think this. Forgive me if I’m wrong, but if you are the type of person who likes to hurt others, don’t you require that there be bottoms in the world that allow you to hurt them? Isn’t it a reciprocal relationship where both parties are getting what they want out of the situation? I know for myself that I would rather not play than play with someone who isn’t into it. I want my partner to walk away from a scene with me feeling the same high that I am on. Selfish and self-centred? OMG here’s some lube GO FUCK YOURSELF!!
head. banging. on. wall. repeatedly.
Someone needs to make me stop going to b.com. Seriously.