Ok, here’s a question

You are living with your boyfriend/girlfriend of a few months. You are still figuring each other out. You want more oral sexing from your partner. Your partner says they are willing to accomodate, but only when you are freshly washed up because otherwise they do not enjoy it at all.

Is this a reasonable request to make?

To me, the answer is a no-brainer – if I want my partner to get all up in my junk and they will only enjoy themselves if I’m freshly scrubbed, then I’ll scrub up. However, I was hanging out with a friend and her fairly new boyfriend this evening, and he seemed to be put out at her request.

And yes, we were discussing their sex life. We drank two bottles of wine and half a bottle of vodka between us, so the lines of ‘too much information’ were a little blurry. *grin*

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5 Responses to Ok, here’s a question

  1. Nicole says:

    Completely reasonable. If someone wants it bad enough to ask for it then why let a shower get in the way?

  2. Donna says:

    I was put in that situation once, and was a bit put out — I was a little offended at the implication that I was somehow unclean most of the time, which just wasn’t true. It’s not really a huge thing to ask, just … inconvenient and disappointing. It doesn’t help that I don’t understand it *at all* since I think freshly scrubbed hoohaw tastes boring and sterile.

    In the long run, since I’m just not going to shower as often as my sex life would call for, I went with less oral. It’s never been the main attraction for me, so it wasn’t a big loss.

  3. rock_grrl says:

    G made the request of me when I asked for more oral and it seemed reasonable … especially after a long day of working. We worked out that if we both wanted oral (he always does), then we would work into the sexing a joint shower. It became part of the foreplay and we both really enjoyed the change.

  4. Laura says:

    What Rock grrl said. Joint shower!

  5. birdpress says:

    I think it is reasonable.

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