idle musings

One of the things that I am learning, slowly, is that it is okay for me to not want to interact with toxic people, or passive aggressive people, or mean people, or people who are unwilling to respect my boundaries, regardless of whether they believe them to be valid. It’s thanks to people like Melissa [...]

I’m always ‘entertained’ when the media portray bdsm with the submissive partner as a victim. I have never felt less of a victim than when engaging in fully consensual* sm activities. *My caveat being, of course, that without full consent on both sides, it stops being sm and becomes assault.

My camping trip to Tofino was lovely but I missed Maia and Andy quite a bit. Andy I knew was well taken care of, as I had my usual Andy-sitter in to love and spoil him while I was gone, but Maia stayed for three nights at her daycare and as it was my first [...]