The only way that rape stops is if we start educating about enthusiastic consent, that it is important to ensure you have consent before undertaking sexual contact with another person, and that anyone has the right to withdraw consent at any time, for any reason. I want a world with no more victim blaming in it. Lets hold the right people accountable – those who choose to rape.

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  1. housedog says:

    YES YES YES YES.

    YES.

    Also…victim blaming. I once had an argument with a coworker over whether or not a prostitute could be raped. “She IS…uh….selling herself,” coworker says. “You can’t….rape someone who’s….already doing it for money…”

    “Huh,” I answered. “Okay, so then if the hospital stops PAYING YOU, but they make you show up for work every day ANYWAY….then, well, that’s okay too because you WERE already a nurse. Right?”

    And she blinked at me several times and then grudgingly admitted that she hadn’t thought of this. Because NOTHIN’ hits nurses in the gut like threatening to mess with our paychecks. All that Angels of Compassion crap flies RIGHT out the window the minute payroll gets snafu’d.

    And I’m not in any way trying to diminish the impact rape has. I’m not suggesting prostitutes feel less violated because of their profession. I just find that sometimes if I stop trying to make someone feel empathy and instead just frame things in colder logic, that seems to help.

    I don’t know. I just get very tired of arguing with people over the assumption that someone is promiscuous or the fact that they wear suggestive clothing or the matter that they’re in the sex trade…that somehow this “explains” why they got raped. It doesn’t. Rape has nothing to do with profession or clothing–it has to do with violation. And we will never be rid of rape until women have both physical empowerment to stop their attackers AND legal empowerment to effectively prosecute the ones they could NOT stop.

    • Erin says:

      And I’m not in any way trying to diminish the impact rape has. I’m not suggesting prostitutes feel less violated because of their profession. I just find that sometimes if I stop trying to make someone feel empathy and instead just frame things in colder logic, that seems to help.

      I hear ya. That is sad in itself, that people are unable to feel empathy in these types of situations and need the logic to get to the right conclusion. I run up against that way too much.

  2. housedog says:

    ExCUSE me…huge typo.

    That last line SHOULD read: And we will never be rid of rape until women AND MEN have both physical empowerment to stop their attackers AND legal empowerment to effectively prosecute the ones they could NOT stop.

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