I went down to see Boss this past week. I had to take two unpaid days off work to do so, and I’m a bit worried to see how the paycheque will be. I want to get a proper full time regular position so. bad. Paid vacation time! I don’t remember what that’s like.
I left after work on Monday – through the border by 5 and reached Eugene by about 11:45. I love driving through the evening. Less traffic means less idiots in the fast line and more open road for me to go zoom. Fast highway driving makes me happy 😀
I used the bathroom when I got there. This is relevant, I promise. I went upstairs, we had amazing sex, lay around and joked and laughed and cuddled for a while, and then Boss went downstairs for something. He called up to me, “Sweetie, come downstairs. And wear your shoes.”
Weird… As I came down the stairs I heard him sloshing around. Also weird…
As it turns out, I left the tap running in the bathroom, and there was a washcloth in there that slid down and covered the drain, and we were upstairs for hour and a half before he went down and discovered the flood. Thankfully his warehouse has concrete floors and it is a disaster zone anyway so it’s not like anything got ruined, but there we were at 1:30 in the morning mopping up gallons of water. Not exactly the way I wanted to start my visit, and so not indicative of who I am! I’m not careless or idiotic or … well, whatever! I’m pretty much the opposite most of the time, except when I’m around him *sigh*. What was interesting though, was that even though I know he doesn’t have a temper, I kept waiting for him to snap. I kept waiting for him to yell at me and make me feel worse (because obviously I already felt bad!). But he didn’t. That’s not the way he deals with things. He is always very calm and just gets on with what needs to be done. I’m quite sure that that is one of the reasons I have allowed myself to love him. Tempers scare me. Unpredictable people scare me. He is the opposite.
After we had the mess as much cleaned up as we could and we were going back to bed, what he did do was start to tease me about it. He reminded me that going up the stairs meant first the left foot and then the right. When we were going to sleep he reminded me to breathe in and then breathe out. I’ll never live this down but I don’t mind because it’s not malicious and it’s not meant to make me feel stupid – it’s become another one of our private jokes. I think that this is what intimacy feels like?
Boss threatened to not let me sleep in but he didn’t come wake me until after 9. When I came downstairs he had already cleaned up most of the remaining mess. I spent about half an hour with the shop-vac getting the last of the puddles and then we let the heat get the rest of it. It was in the high 20s that day (mid 80s for the Americans) so luckily anything left just evaporated.
We talked a bit on this trip about some stuff that happened back in the first 6 months of our relationship that nearly ended it. I had spent the last few weeks wallowing in those memories and feeling sorry for myself, but he said something that reframed everything. He asked me if I like where we are now, and I said yes. He said that it’s no use wishing that this thing or that thing hadn’t happened or had happened differently, because that might have meant that we didn’t end up where we are now. Everything that has happened between us has led us to where we are now.
And I like where we are now. I feel happy in my relationship, and that is something that is still taking me by surprise.